Interviews

An Interview with a Married Couple by Kendall Farrington-Rhodes

In this essay, I decided to interview my Uncle Taron and my Aunt Alicia. Both of them, prior to meeting each other, lived similar lives. Since both of each of their parents were Christian and very active in the church, they were too from a very young age. As you can probably tell then, this is where they met. Cross Lutheran church has made a big impact on my family. My grandma attended first, then her children and her children’s children. 

My Aunt Alicia and Uncle Taron first became friends at around the age of 7, through “Children’s Church” which is church but for kids to be able to understand the Bible and it’s teachings better.  They continued to be friends up until their adult years and my uncle describes his first time of realizing he wanted to marry my Aunt was when he first met her.

          My Aunt and Uncle always knew that they wanted to have a religious ceremony for their wedding considering that the church was very prominent in their lives as children and essentially the reason they’re together today. It was held at the very place they met; Cross Lutheran Church. Though Cross is considered a Lutheran church, a majority of my family identifies as “Non-denominational” because we don’t really identify with a certain sect of Christianity. We just know that we are Christian.

To prepare for their wedding, my aunt said, was the most stressful for her. You need bridesmaids, a dress, a decor specialist, someone to certify your wedding, a catering service, dresses for your bridesmaids, groomsmen, a place to hold the reception and a ton more.

Both my aunt and uncle agreed that no marriage will survive without trust, faith, and communication. You need to be able to trust your partner that they will keep those vows that they made to you on your wedding day. You need to have faith as well. If your marriage doesn’t have God present, it is destined to fail. That presence of God is what drives that faith in your relationship between you and your partner. Lastly, you absolutely need communication. My Aunt says that if you’re not comfortable talking to your spouse about how you’re feeling, you’re not ready for marriage because that’s all it is. She continued to go on and on about how nothing is no longer your own when you become married. Everything is shared, including decision making. You need to have the skill of being able to discuss and go over these decisions with your partner, big or small. The advice that my aunt and uncle thought was most important to share about marriage is to always keep God present. Like my aunt said before, a marriage without God present will fail. “Once you do that, everything else will follow.”

This interview was really fun, and I got to learn more about marriage and about my aunt and uncle’s relationship. The reason I chose them is that, from a young age, I’ve always been infatuated with their marriage. Every time I went over to their house as a child, my cousins (their children) and I would ask if we could watch their wedding video. I also remember when they would tell me stories about how they first met and have been together this long. I remember thinking that I wanted something like their relationship one day. I thought it was interesting that  they chose trust, communication, and faith as the most important elements for marriage, and I most definitely agree as well. I also learned about the non-spiritual side of the preparation for a wedding, which sounded not fun at all. But my aunt said that she wouldn’t have done it any other way with anyone else and that she married her best friend.

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Kendall Farrington-Rhodes